Congrats to you all for going so long ... mustangii, happy anniversary!
I was married for 10 years ... that ended 4 years ago ... and believe it or not, i am gonna give it another whirl, you would've thought i'd learn my lesson ;) ... getting married October 6th. See if we can push this to 35 years like you and yours mustangii!
no and never. Though my girlfriend and lifepartner (same person by the way) have spent almost 12 years in hell together (a little bit of a joke, but not too much really) and still think she's the coolest person I've known.
@joesnuffer ... from wikipedia ... "practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved" ... i mean, i certainly have had moments of desire, but that would not have gone over very well with the women in my life ... so, which of the three; practice, desire or acceptance? and do tell if i am being too prying, it is interesting to me. working good so far? i must investigate! :)
I have found 3 little phrases that have helped me. I am sorry. It's my fault. Please forgive me. I don't use them all the time and sometimes she says that to me, too. Also have found that she wants me to just listen and not fix her problems. Also she is my best friend. edm
Been married for just over 5 years now but have been together for over 10 years and gotta say I am pretty lucky. Being friends first and foremost is essential to a good marriage imo.
@snuffbrant I'm in what is considered a Triad in the polyamory community. Male, Male, Female with the female being my wife of course. So we have a boyfriend, we both have sex with him, we both go out and do things with him, and we are both friends with him. It's going well so far, really the biggest hurdle I still have to jump, is dealing with jealousy when they are out doing things without me. Mastering jealousy is one of the biggest challenges I've ever faced. (even bigger than the challenges I faced when I was over in Iraq.) Also I guess I would fall under the practice and acceptance categories. We recently decided to be just a triad and not actively be out looking for other partners which is considered polyfidelity. Mostly because I didn't want or need any drama in my house, one extra partner is enough.
Let me know if you have any other questions and I will answer them as best as I can. :)>-
@joesnuffer ... i really appreciate your honesty ... and maybe some consider it TMI ... but frankly, honesty is the best policy. As long as you all are happy ... and in love ... that's the real winner right there. Hats off to you ... and I mean that sincerely. Thank you for sharing for those of us that were curious. I, am not poly-curious, ;) , just curious. I am pretty certain I am petty, and jealousy would take its toll on me.
@cstokes4 I thought it would be for me too, but after sitting down and really thinking about it, I decided it was a win win for me. Someone else helps me pay bills, there is more love (nudge nudge wink wink) in the house, and I like seeing my wife happy and this makes her happy. The jealousy still comes up and when it does I just find something to take my mind off it (I have many hobbies) and talk about it with my wife. I have found that being in this type of relationship requires way more communication than I am used to. Keeps me on my toes. :D
@joesnuffer I envy and congradulate you. I was in a poly relationship, exactly like yours actually, but it apparenly ended recently. I say apparently because the bastard skipped out on us without a words notice...my wife was heartbroken and angry...I was mostly just angry...but anyway, I'm glad the 3 of you have such a great thing going!
I feel it still right on topic. Myself, I've been in a "Ready Made Family-Just Add Dad" for eight years now. Not as of yet married per-se, thats a long story. We have a daughter together and 3 boys hers. She is great, keeps the house in order, fields the finance planning(ie tells me when i can have snuff), and has sincere Love for me.
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Yes, we have been married for 13 years. My hubby is my best friend too.
Bill Watterson
I'm into my 15th year. I'm surprised she still puts up with me.
I was married for 10 years ... that ended 4 years ago ... and believe it or not, i am gonna give it another whirl, you would've thought i'd learn my lesson ;) ... getting married October 6th. See if we can push this to 35 years like you and yours mustangii!
I've been married for about 1.5 years, so far everything has been wonderful!
edm
Being friends first and foremost is essential to a good marriage imo.
Let me know if you have any other questions and I will answer them as best as I can. :)>-
No worries @joesnuffer, it's a free country.
Hey no problem. I'm a pretty honest dude!
@joesnuffer I envy and congradulate you. I was in a poly relationship, exactly like yours actually, but it apparenly ended recently. I say apparently because the bastard skipped out on us without a words notice...my wife was heartbroken and angry...I was mostly just angry...but anyway, I'm glad the 3 of you have such a great thing going!