Are you married, and for how long?

mustangii

My wonderful Lady and I celebrated our 35th wedding Anniversary the 21st.

edm

basement_shaman

Congratulation that is wonderful ,May you have 35 more. I did it once lets just say it was an experience. And a chapter of my life that is past.

BigDaddySnuff

@mustangii Congrats to you and your wife.

LadySnuff

Congratulations!
Yes, we have been married for 13 years. My hubby is my best friend too.

bigmick

Congrats. 35 years sounds like a very long time. ;)

I'm into my 15th year. I'm surprised she still puts up with me.

Mouse

married 23 years. Best time of my life.

BigNose

Just coming up to 14 years and still no closer to understanding women. But it's all good.

snuffbrant

Congrats to you all for going so long ... mustangii, happy anniversary!

I was married for 10 years ... that ended 4 years ago ... and believe it or not, i am gonna give it another whirl, you would've thought i'd learn my lesson ;) ... getting married October 6th. See if we can push this to 35 years like you and yours mustangii!

Abraxas

Second time around, 19 years and she is great, the love of my life. My first was a nightmare - 5 years that felt like 500.

cstokes4

Congrats, Ed.

I've been married for about 1.5 years, so far everything has been wonderful!

bob

no and never. Though my girlfriend and lifepartner (same person by the way) have spent almost 12 years in hell together (a little bit of a joke, but not too much really) and still think she's the coolest person I've known.

joesnuffer

Been married for 11 years and I've been in a polyamorous relationship for at least a year now I think.

snuffbrant

@joesnuffer ... from wikipedia ... "practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved" ... i mean, i certainly have had moments of desire, but that would not have gone over very well with the women in my life ... so, which of the three; practice, desire or acceptance? and do tell if i am being too prying, it is interesting to me. working good so far? i must investigate! :)

stogie

First time 23 years, second 7 so far...... Looking good for continuing!!!

mustangii

I have found 3 little phrases that have helped me. I am sorry. It's my fault. Please forgive me. I don't use them all the time and sometimes she says that to me, too. Also have found that she wants me to just listen and not fix her problems. Also she is my best friend.
edm

distaind

Yup 6 years now

willc

Been married for just over 5 years now but have been together for over 10 years and gotta say I am pretty lucky.
Being friends first and foremost is essential to a good marriage imo.

joesnuffer

@snuffbrant I'm in what is considered a Triad in the polyamory community. Male, Male, Female with the female being my wife of course. So we have a boyfriend, we both have sex with him, we both go out and do things with him, and we are both friends with him. It's going well so far, really the biggest hurdle I still have to jump, is dealing with jealousy when they are out doing things without me. Mastering jealousy is one of the biggest challenges I've ever faced. (even bigger than the challenges I faced when I was over in Iraq.) Also I guess I would fall under the practice and acceptance categories. We recently decided to be just a triad and not actively be out looking for other partners which is considered polyfidelity. Mostly because I didn't want or need any drama in my house, one extra partner is enough.

Let me know if you have any other questions and I will answer them as best as I can. :)>-

cstokes4

T. M. I. :)

joesnuffer

@cstokes4 sorry. At least I didn't talk about positions or anything of that nature right????

cstokes4

I meant to put a smiley.

No worries @joesnuffer, it's a free country.

snuffbrant

@joesnuffer ... i really appreciate your honesty ... and maybe some consider it TMI ... but frankly, honesty is the best policy. As long as you all are happy ... and in love ... that's the real winner right there. Hats off to you ... and I mean that sincerely. Thank you for sharing for those of us that were curious. I, am not poly-curious, ;) , just curious. I am pretty certain I am petty, and jealousy would take its toll on me.

joesnuffer

@snuffbrant

Hey no problem. I'm a pretty honest dude!

cstokes4

@joesnuffer @snuffbrant the jealousy would be my downfall, no matter what the mix is.

joesnuffer

@cstokes4 I thought it would be for me too, but after sitting down and really thinking about it, I decided it was a win win for me. Someone else helps me pay bills, there is more love (nudge nudge wink wink) in the house, and I like seeing my wife happy and this makes her happy. The jealousy still comes up and when it does I just find something to take my mind off it (I have many hobbies) and talk about it with my wife. I have found that being in this type of relationship requires way more communication than I am used to. Keeps me on my toes. :D

Harlequin

I've been married for 3 years now.

@joesnuffer I envy and congradulate you. I was in a poly relationship, exactly like yours actually, but it apparenly ended recently. I say apparently because the bastard skipped out on us without a words notice...my wife was heartbroken and angry...I was mostly just angry...but anyway, I'm glad the 3 of you have such a great thing going!

mustangii

well this has gone off in a direction I didn't expect, but that's cool.

bigmick

well this has gone off in a direction I didn't expect, but that's cool.

Thread drift....a plaque over all the internet. lol

Scurvy

1.5 years so far and going great. Hopefully, we will be able to celebrate a 35th anniversary some day! :D

joesnuffer

@mustangii sorry man. Didn't mean to derail the thread!!

PotPoe

I feel it still right on topic. Myself, I've been in a "Ready Made Family-Just Add Dad" for eight years now. Not as of yet married per-se, thats a long story. We have a daughter together and 3 boys hers. She is great, keeps the house in order, fields the finance planning(ie tells me when i can have snuff), and has sincere Love for me.